A popular misnomer in married life is that “all husband’s want from their wife is sex” and “all wives are cold and unresponsive”. Well, it’s not true. The fact is most women very much enjoy sex, it is just that a woman may need a little bit more coddling and kissing before the actual act of intercourse is introduced, but so what! What’s so hard about making your wife happy?

You see, a man can just “think” about having sex and he is ready to have sex. A woman needs more than just the “thought” in her mind, she prefers to be touched and massaged for a while first. If you do this, I can almost guarantee your wife will be coming to you for sex – not the other way around. So quit complaining about the lack of sex in your marriage – do something about it!

What makes a woman not seem to be too thrilled about sex is that her man is not being very helpful when it comes to making sure that she is ready to actually have intercourse. If a husband is not putting in the extra effort to make sure his wife enjoys herself, then sex to her will be a chore, like doing the dishes. Is that how you want your wife to regard sex with her husband? Ladies being assertive with your husband about what you like is a plus in the bedroom.

A husband who often ejaculates prematurely can leave his wife feeling discouraged and frustrated. A husband can remedy premature-ejaculation by waiting to have intercourse until his wife is ready – by adding an additional ten minutes to the lovemaking with some activity that is going to give his wife stimuli as well as him. Get creative with your spouse and learn to enjoy every minute of intimacy that you share together.

I think it would be advisable for all married couples to show each other where their pleasure zones are and rev up their sex life. Couples should not be shy about such intimate matters. You deserve to understand one another; it is part of what marriage is all about. I believe if couples would learn to be assertive with one another it would cut down infidelity in marriage by more than half!

Think about this, why would a husband or wife go outside the boundaries of their marriage in the first place? Because they “think” the grass is greener somewhere else. But the truth is, the grass is never greener anywhere else; it is a trick that the mind plays with you. Couples only need to water their own grass so it will become exquisite, that’s all. Get your watering can out and start watering!

Another area that is often misinterpreted by the wife is if a man is physically tired, unhealthy, overweight, or just plain strung out, it can interfere with his erection or from keeping an erection. It does not matter what age he is, whether he is in his twenties or eighties, it is a fact of life.

What some women don’t understand is this malady has nothing to do with them, but more with the physical ability and emotional state of the man. Unfortunately, many wives take this to mean their husband’s don’t find them attractive, and they end up fussing over it, hurting their husband’s ego in the process, which can interfere with the next bedroom episode.

Ladies, understand that physically speaking, a woman is always ready for sexual intercourse, but a man, if he is not in that great of shape, or his ego has been bruised by the lack of performance before, it can keep him from having erections. This is why some men go to pornography and or commit adultery, or use medications that supposed to help in that area.

A man has to be ready physically and mentally. If the mental is not there, he will have a difficult time coming to his full capacity. I am not defending a man’s sexual immorality but it’s reality, and reality has to be said for better understanding in this area. Couples need to learn to express themselves assertively without hurting one another in the process, its called productive communication.

I feel that a wife can remedy this situation by understanding it better and changing her attitude in the bedroom. If you have somehow made your husband feel incapable as a man, he needs his ego built back up by the woman he loves. Throw away the viagras – most men do not need that drug – they only need to have a better mindset about their ability and of course, being healthy physically doesn’t hurt either.

Ladies, be good to your man, don’t give him any reason to want to veer away from his queen. Let him be the king of his domain, so he will want to pamper you with his manly gentleness and love. Men, I believe it wouldn’t hurt for you to start expressing your feelings more with your wife. Talk to her – don’t close yourself off. She wants to please you but if you won’t tell her how you feel, how can she?

 

 

Recently, one of the television morning shows featured a slice about dating, which concluded that girls have a better chance of becoming America?s Next Top Model than of meeting a decent man after the age of 40. The topic of the segment, a pretty but surgically-altered 44-year-old, moaned the 60-year-old coots she dates consider her too ancient for them. The perky hostess empathized, pronouncing that she knew of one successful man who had a rule for the girls he dates : Half his age plus seven years. Deflated, I turned off the TV. Sure, I?m happily married to a person who never lets me forget that he likes me. But what if, God forbid, he stepped in front of a bus? Would I ever find romance again, or would I be tossed on the reject pile on the idea of my age?I took a look around. My husband?s 40-year-old buddy lately got married, not to a 22-year-old Hooters waitress but to a professional girl his own age. A chum of mine, a 42-year-old teacher, met her husband when he appeared for Thanksgiving pudding at her cousin?s house 2 years ago ( they now have a baby girl ). My bro, who is 35, has a tendency to date older women, as do a rising number of men, according to a story in last year?s Connecticut Post.A striking example of an over-40 love magnet is Mary, an Irish girl who was widowed while her children were young. After a mourning period, she resumed her active social life and, in her forties, fell head over heels in love and remarried. She and her new husband enjoyed music, dancing, and watched one another become grandparents. When he died 2 years back after 25 years of marriage, she turned into a widow for a second time. But, common of Mary, she at last came to the belief that life was for the living. The last time I saw her, men were lining up to dance with her at her granddaughter?s graduation party ( they weren?t pity dances, either ). The lady is attractive, snickers simply, and has a zest for life. Regardless of the issues she?s faced, she?s happy. Who wouldn?t want to dance with her?And that?s the key to being attractive at all ages : regardless of your circumstances, you must permit yourself to be content. Life will never be perfect. Your divorced boy could be living on your couch, you could share a driveway with an annoying lady who places her rubbish out a few days before pick-up, or perhaps you just gained three pounds.Just let it go.According to Abraham Lincoln, ?People are as happy as they make up their minds to be.’ Write a catalogue of your blessings and keep it with you. Read it before you hit the pillow at night and before you set your feet on the floor in the morning. Decide to be happy, and you’ll be happy.What?s more, you will become the girl men want to know better. Contentment is a woman?s best cosmetic, the late actress Jane Russell once recounted, and she knew a{ thing or two| bit| little about being attractive. Makeup, jewelry, and plastic surgery cannot compare to the power of contentment to make you the fun and desirable woman you know, deep inside, you actually are.Is it possible to meet an honest man after the age of 40? You tell me..

                Wishes of woman of today?

                  Every woman wants to marry, but the woman of today has got some wishes and desires.  If those are fulfilled, she is happy and if those are not fulfilled, she is not satisfied with her parents, with her relatives, with the society and even she turns against God.  We must try to understand the woman of today and if we are parents, we must try to fulfill the wishes and desires of woman of today.  The wishes and desires of woman of today could be enumerated as noted below:-

(1)    She wants that she must be having proper education, proper training and proper adjustment at work from where she is earning proper income.  she does not want to be dependant upon her husband or upon her in laws.  She wants to stand at her own feet and she wants to be financially sound.

(2)    She wants that her husband must be having proper education, proper training and must be holding a status which may be higher than her own status and he must be having sound income with which they both could be able to run a good family administration.

(3)    She wants that her husband should not be drunkard, opium eater or drug addict nor he should be a gambler.  She wants that her husband should be having good character and may not be indulging in dancing girls, call girls, prostitutes or he must not be having relations with other women.  She wants a man and she wants to be the only woman in his life.

(4)    She wants that her parents must be sparing due share in properties and that should be given to her in dowry because she knows that without due dowry, she would not be having sound footings in the house of her in laws. 

(5)    She wants that her parents may be celebrating her marriage like that of their sons and there should be no shortcoming in the reception of barat and the baraatis.

(6)    She wants to see her would be husband before marriage and she wants that her parents, though having arranged marriage, yet they must allow her to have a separate meeting with her would be husband and she wants to see whether she would be liking this man in her life and shall be enjoying her sex life to her full satisfaction or his look does not come within her zone of liking.  If she is not liking the man, she wants that she must be allowed to say ‘No’ to her parents and also to the would be in laws.

(7)    The girl of today does not like to marry a boy who does not come within her zone of likings.

(8)    She shall ask the would be husband whether he has got some girl friend and if so, whether he would be able to forget her and if not what they shall do in presence of that girl.

(9)    She wants to observe independently during the period of waiting marriage and if she comes to understand that this man shall not be a fit person for her, she wants to give true information to her parents.

(10)                                                                                     She wants that her husband should be in a position to provide her a good honeymoon.

(11)                                                                                     She shall like to see her would be mother in law, father in law and sisters in law and also brothers in law.  She would like to know what are the liabilities and responsibilities of her husband and she would like to assess whether she would be able to share his responsibilities and all liabilities. If she feels that she would not be able to face all these liabilities, she shall not agree for this marriage.

(12)                                                                                     She would like that she should not be kept as a slave, but she should be getting all the liberties and she would be able to visit her parents, her friends and relatives and they too shall be able to visit her as and when they so desire or they could get time.

(13)                                                                                     She shall desire that there shall be no adverse comments on her parents from the side of her in laws and from the side of her husband.

(14)                                                                                     She shall like that her in laws should not behave with her like a domestic servant.

(15)                                                                                     She would like to become a full-fledged member of the house of her in laws and she shall desire an undertaking from the side of her husband that they shall be having no secret things from her.  She shall desire that all matters should be discussed with her too and her comments may be considered on merits.

(16)                                                                                     She would not like that her husband is ignoring her and is preferring some other women in the house.

(17)                                                                                     She shall like that her father in law, her brother in law and all other men in the house have got love, regard and respect for her.

(18)                                                                                     The girl of today wants a handsome husband who should be in a position to accompany her in social gatherings and she must be proud of her achievement that she could have such a handsome, social, wise, having good manners.

(19)                                                                                     She desires that all attending her marriage must say that the occasion had been celebrated in a fine manner and everyone had been entertained in a good manner.

(20)                                                                                     She wants that her parents had given all the items which are accompanying a girl of her social status.

(21)                                                                                     And every girl of today wants that she should be sent to a beauty parlour where she should get a final touch and must be able to give complete show to her personality.

(22)                                                                                     She wants that handsome and attractive women must be called in her marriage so that they could give a good show to the occasion.

(23)                                                                                     She wants that the place where marriage is celebrated must be prepared as per latest designs.

                 These are some of the basic desires in a woman and the parents are the first persons, who should try to understand their daughter and then decide the future course in life of their daughter.  They should not ignore all her wishes and desires and if they fail, they shall be facing more and more difficulties because the woman of the present time shall not try to face all these difficulties because she is not dependant upon her husband and when she herself is an earning hand, she shall like that her own wishes and desires should also be fulfilled.                             ——————–

When you’ve been in a relationship for a couple of years, you get so comfortable around each other that you inevitably take some things for granted. While women are also guilty of taking a few things in stride, men are even worse offenders. Usually, when men are already secure in a woman’s love, they unwittingly start neglecting some of their duties. Naturally, this causes tension in the relationship. Women resent it when men don’t give them enough attention. Thus, here’s a list of the things that men should never forget or neglect to do: 1. Giving her gifts on her birthday and other special occasions. Though men seem to think that remembering the dates of special days isn’t that important, they have to understand that it’s a very big deal for women. So, they should mark their calendars accordingly. Women, however, should make it clear to them that they expect something special on the said dates. It’s not about the gifts anyway. It’s a way for men to reassure their wives or girlfriends that their love for them is still stronger than ever. 2. Good grooming and keeping fit. There are some men who don’t really pay that much attention to looking good or being fit once they get married or in a long-term relationship. Relationships aren’t solely based on men’s looks, but it’s not good when they no longer make an effort to look great for their wives or girlfriends. Attraction is an important factor in relationships and women certainly can’t be attracted to men who don’t shave, cut their hair, put on some cologne, or wear suitable clothing. You can’t expect your wife or girlfriend to be affectionate with you when you’ve been wearing the same old shirt for three days in a row. Guys should take care of themselves for the sake of their relationship, as well as their health. 3. Kissing her hello and goodbye. Guys should make it a point to kiss their wives or girlfriend properly each time they see each other and when they have to part. Women want affection on a regular basis even if they are just given through small gestures. A kiss is a way for a guy to touch base with his partner. If he forgets to do so, it could become a habit. Later on, he’d get the shock of his life when his wife or girlfriend begins to express her resentment over it. A kiss may be just a kiss, but it means the world to women. No matter how busy a guy is, he has to stay on top of these three things. He can’t afford not to. Besides, they’re just simple moves that don’t cost much.

Destination Weddings are weddings that take place away from where the bride and groom live. They happen in some of the most exotic and wonderful places in the world. These types of non-traditional weddings provide the bride and groom with dreamy settings, while doubling as an opportunity for guests to experience a place they have never been before.

“Today’s couples are more educated, sophisticated, and better traveled than couples of past generations. More affluent than past marrying couples, 27% of these Generation Y couples ( children of the baby boomers and twice the numbers ) will pay for their entire wedding, and they want something different for themselves and their guests; they want to be pampered and taken seriously.

In the year 2006, nine percent of weddings in the United States were destination

weddings, which is a 200% increase in the last ten years. Generation Y couples are tired of the “themed” weddings that became so prevalent and overused in the past. They want to experience different cultures and real settings rather than a “staged” wedding.”

“Although women are still the primary decision makers of the wedding plans, men are more involved today than couples of the generation that preceded them, 83% of today’s couples are employed full time; they work hard (they are paying a mortgage and own one or two automobiles between them). Equally, they want to play hard; realizing that they are together rarely, they want to plan events that will bring them closer. As well, they want to create deep and meaningful memories for the family and friends. Since most couples are not getting married in the areas where they grew up, their time with family and friends is all the more precious and important to them. If they can do this in a unique or even an exotic setting, all the more enticing,” Ernst adds.

St Barthelemy, located in the French West Indies, is that exotic setting today’s bride is looking for. It is the Monte Carlo of the Caribbean, without the traffic jams but with the added advantage of flawless beaches. Shortened to Saint Barth in French and St Barts in English it is an exclusive eight square mile (21 sq km) embodiment of 24-carat French chic. It attracts millionaires on luxury yachts, movie stars and French expatriates fleeing the European winter. It is a Caribbean island where relaxation and Gallic style under a tropical sun have been refined to perfection.

Few islands worldwide, can match the unique blend of style, nature and history that is St. Barts. This tiny island has significant appeal where ‘quality’ is most certainly more important than ‘quantity’… an island far away from the normality of life, making it the perfect wedding destination.

St. Barts is surrounded with turquoise waters, situated near the northern end of the Lesser Antilles group in the French West Indies. At a distance of 200 kms from the island of Guadeloupe and 25 kms from Saint-Martin. It is a mountainous island whose only flat area is occupied by the airport’s runway. As the climate is rather dry, agriculture has never been developed, thus throughout history few slaves had ever been employed. For the most part, St. Bartians are descendants of Breton and Norman fisher folk. Many are of French and Swedish ancestry, the latter evident in their fair skin, blond hair, and blue eyes.

St. Barts’ beaches are renowned for being some of the most beautiful and pristine in the world. Many are found in small coves, which have been protected from development by strict environmentally friendly zoning. Unlike many of its neighboring Caribbean islands, it has not been overrun with prefab condos and large chain hotels. There are six 4 star hotels all featuring romance packages for the wedding or honeymoon couple. All are of single story design, some as one building and others as separate single bedroom villas. Four are located on the beach (perfect for reading-of-the-vows ceremony) the other two are high on the hills with magnificent views of the island and setting sun. Each hotel has been uniquely designed, blending into the surrounding terrain. Luxury and elegance is felt in each environment.

St. Barts features some of the best cuisine in the Caribbean. The island has over eighty restaurants featuring culinary styles ranging from classic French to Asian to West Indian.

Many of the restaurants attract gourmet chefs trained in France to oversee their kitchens. These chefs can also be reserved to serve guests in the intimate privacy of their own villa for any special event or treasured evening. Villas on the island offer breath taking views and the perfect setting for your reception, especially with your own private French chef.

Nightlife of St. Barts is diverse as well. Visitors looking for late-night pleasures can listen to live jazz at a café or dance the night away at one of the local discos or after hours clubs.

St. Barts is also a duty-free port, rated as one of the premier shopping destinations in the Caribbean. The capital Gustavia is the principal shopping area of the island. There are boutiques and emporiums for the most sophisticated shoppers, featuring luxury brands such as Cartier, Hermes, Dior to name a few. The island hosts numerous health and beauty clinics and fitness centers catering to the island’s upscale clientele.

It is important to realize that planning a wedding in a foreign country still has the usual concerns and worries of any home based event; there is the additional stress that something could go wrong in a different location. Aside from making travel reservations for the group, a couple needs to consider local legal issues. For instance, marriage in St Barts is not a legal ceremony, rather it is viewed as a spiritual ceremony. For this reason and others, travelers planning to marry in any foreign country should give serious consideration to hiring a local, home based Wedding Consultant for guidance and advice as well as an on-site Wedding Consultant at the particular destination. .The on-site Consultant will insure that the hosts of the event have all the required documentation, that every detail is planned long before arrival and that only the most competent, professional and expert wedding vendors with proper contracts will provide their services . These on-site Consultants can also provide any needed assistance if the couple chooses to bring along some of their own vendors (e.g. the photographer, floral designer, videographer, etc.). They will check that each client and guest is properly retrieved at the airport, that they are provided with the planned-for-accommodations, and that they are well rested from travel before beginning the schedule of any local tours and sightseeing prepared for in advance. Moreover, the on-site consultant can also suggest local customs that will make the wedding truly unique, one that family and friends alike will talk about for a very long time.

“Premium IV is truly one of the foremost on-site specialists. Located on St Barts they are members of AFWPI (Association for Wedding Professionals International) and JWI (June Wedding, Inc®). The management team of Premium IV is made up of three experts in service: a successful Canadian entrepreneur, an English expert in receptive tourism and a French restaurateur who have provided magnificent service in the best restaurants and hotels in France, the UK, USA, and St Barts. Additionally, the highly qualified and bilingual staff (French and English) have many years of experience in the island way of life.

They will provide the ultimate in V.I.P. services. Premium IV has brought together, under one umbrella, only the best that St Barts has to offer. With over 120 contracted partners providing approximately 450 products and services. There is virtually no request that Premium IV cannot arrange,” says International Travel Writer, Jesse Nash.

Any special event wedding, honeymoon or other special event that takes place on St. Barts is special and memorable simply due to the Island’s own enchanted ambiance and unique hospitality. The St. Barts experience is all the more enhanced when it is under the direction of a competent Consultant and Director, at home and on the Island. A Consultant or Director who leaves nothing to chance, who sees to it that not only is the St. Barts experience itself magical, but also one that will be treasured forever in the hearts and memories of the travelers. The staff of Premium IV takes the added steps of communicating with the client and/or their home-based Consultant before arrival on St. Barts so that every detail is discussed and decisions are determined and firmed up in writing. From the moment the client and guests set foot on St. Barts, they enter into a well-scripted, stress-free atmosphere in which they will be completely at ease and confident that all the planning will play out like as closely as possible to their dreams.

John Day

President

Premium IV